Updated: Nov 13, 2019
Just coming out?
Maybe this article will be good for you to read.
Researchers at the University of Kentucky in Lexington surveyed over 500 gay men and women, inquiring about the positive aspects of being gay. Up until now, most of the research has focused on psychopathology, or negative mental health problems associated with being gay or lesbian.
But many gays and lesbians will tell you that there are positive aspects of such a life. In fact, they found 10 universal themes:
Belonging to a community
Creating families of choice
Forging strong connections with others
Serving as positive role models
Developing empathy and compassion
Living authentically and honestly
Gaining personal insight and sense of self
Involvement in social justice and activism
Freedom from gender-specific roles
Freedom to explore sexuality and relationships
What are some positive aspects you've noticed for yourself?
Many gays and lesbians enjoy the lack of "rules" about how to live one's life. Some would argue that heterosexuals are raised to start dating in their teens, marry in their 20's, and have children by age 30. The in-laws often start dropping the hint that they want a grandchild if you're approaching 40 and haven't had a child, right?
Nevertheless, gays and lesbians get to choose whether this life is right for them, and this freedom opens up possibilities for a happier life.
- Gay Couples Institute Research Team
Riggle, Ellen D. B.; Whitman, Joy S.; Olson, Amber; Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, Vol 39(2), Apr 2008. pp. 210-217.