Updated: Nov 13, 2019
Leading relationship researchers, including Dr. John Gottman, have found that incompatibility is not the reason why people break up. They break up because they lack the will power, hope, patience, and curiosity to stay together.
Dr. Gottman says, "how you speak to each other, how well you get along, and how you move through time together,” is what matters; not what you have in common.
Often times, couples will tell us they're "not compatible" but we think what they mean is "we're not getting along."
If you're thinking of breaking up or you think you're not compatible with your partner, this is a great article to read: http://www.gottmanblog.com/archives/2015/8/7/psychology-finally-reveals-the-answer-to-finding-your-soulmate
If you'd like some help implementing this habit into your relationship, schedule a consultation with our clinical staff. We've helped about 200 couples per year since 2007, and can help you get started in the right direction.