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Obviously when you marry you never think you might be sitting in a divorce attorney’s office dividing your assets. Who would want to think such things?

But it can happen. So now that gay couples can marry in some states, how can gay couples take on the responsibility of trying to stay together?

I found a few good gay pre-marital suggestions from hunting around through the research.

1. Ideally, get married after about 2 years of courtship. The ideal courtship length seems to be about 2 years and 4 months, to be exact.
2. Marry after age 25.
3. Talk about the big issues before marrying. How many kids does he want? How does she handle money? Are you sexually compatible? Couples tend to have one of these 6 common problems to deal with throughout their marriage:
   • Money
   • Sex
   • Parenting
   • Getting along with In-Laws
   • Tidiness/Chores
   • Use of Personal Free Time
4. Do stuff together, but also enjoy spending time at home together. One of the important things we look at when evaluating a couple’s relationship is whether, if given the option, they like spending time at home together, or if they’d rather be on the go. A preference of being on the go can be an indication that they’re avoiding being trapped together at home.
5. Have issues? Get help. A recent New York Times Article talked about how couples tend to get the most out of doing a couples workshop, rather than going to just therapy by itself. Workshops can serve as a good relationship “checkup”. If you’re interested, take a look at one of our coming gay couples workshops HERE.

For those of you who are getting married, we wish you a long-lasting, happy marriage. Congratulations!

Dear Readers,

We have 131 people on our list who are eagerly awaiting our coming workshop. This is great! If you’d like a preview of the exercises covered, and to get a table of contents of the workshop manual, just go to:

http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/video.htm and put your email in. 

You’ll also get an invitation to the workshop when registration opens in a few days. 

Some of the exercises we’re teaching couples:

• HOUR 1: How Relationships Last Long-Term: Restoring Affection and Excitement
• HOUR 2: Long Term Relationships: Using Your Relationship To De-Stress
• HOUR 3: Managing Conflict: Overcoming The 6 Common Areas Couples Fight About
• HOUR 4: Managing Conflict: Compromising and Negotiating Power

This should address your major concerns:

1. “we need to learn to communicate”
2. “help us stop arguing”
3. “I can’t trust my partner anymore”

So how much should we charge, given that you’re receiving FOUR HOURS of packed information designed to improve your relationship? (If you don’t like the workshop you get your money back, no questions asked, BTW.)

Not everyone is paying full price! For the first two couples who sign up, you’ll get a nice discount for offering your suggestions and comments all along.

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We’re only allowing 6 couples per workshop date, so that everyone gets the individualized attention they want. Don’t forget: If you want to be on the priority notification list, just make sure your email is here: http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/video.htm . 

Thanks for helping us make this possible through your suggestions and support!