http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/ Research Blog Fri, 06 Jan 2012 19:39:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/#comment-5730 admin Sun, 03 Jul 2011 21:14:23 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=45#comment-5730 Hi PH, this isn't a good sign at all. She's making a decision unilaterally, which isn't consistent of couples who work well with issues. In fact, unilateral decisions have about an 81% chance of ended a relationship. Probably want to talk with her about this, and figure out how to make this more of a "team" decision. Hi PH, this isn’t a good sign at all. She’s making a decision unilaterally, which isn’t consistent of couples who work well with issues. In fact, unilateral decisions have about an 81% chance of ended a relationship. Probably want to talk with her about this, and figure out how to make this more of a “team” decision.

]]> http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/#comment-5729 PH Sat, 02 Jul 2011 22:10:55 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=45#comment-5729 My long time partner recently told me she wants to have sex with someone else, but doesn't want to split up.........this isn't even an option as far as I am concerned. She has a new job and goes out with co-workers and does not want me along. I love her very much and don't want to lose her, but I will not be a doormat either. What can we do other than giving her a green light on sleeping around? My long time partner recently told me she wants to have sex with someone else, but doesn’t want to split up………this isn’t even an option as far as I am concerned. She has a new job and goes out with co-workers and does not want me along. I love her very much and don’t want to lose her, but I will not be a doormat either. What can we do other than giving her a green light on sleeping around?

]]> http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/#comment-5689 jim Thu, 10 Mar 2011 15:11:07 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=45#comment-5689 "Not Just Friends " is a good book. But, "The Monogamy Myth," by Peggy Vaughan, is a GREAT book! Regardless of sexual orientation, anyone dealing with infidelity would do well to read, and re-read this book. BTW, she is considered the leading expert on the topic of infidelity in the world today. Once you see her material, which is so helpful for recovering from an affair, you will see why. “Not Just Friends ” is a good book. But, “The Monogamy Myth,” by Peggy Vaughan, is a GREAT book! Regardless of sexual orientation, anyone dealing with infidelity would do well to read, and re-read this book. BTW, she is considered the leading expert on the topic of infidelity in the world today. Once you see her material, which is so helpful for recovering from an affair, you will see why.

]]> http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/#comment-5584 David Sat, 14 Aug 2010 05:45:51 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=45#comment-5584 Not necessarily. I cheated on my partner, and it caused a great breach in the trust. But we love each other, remained committed, and did a lot of work to heal the damage, and recovered from it. It did take time to restore the trust, but we were successful. We found that I cheated because certain of my needs were not being met in the relationship. They now are, and I no longer have any desire to cheat at all. The saying "once a cheater always a cheater" is not necessarily always true. Not necessarily. I cheated on my partner, and it caused a great breach in the trust. But we love each other, remained committed, and did a lot of work to heal the damage, and recovered from it. It did take time to restore the trust, but we were successful. We found that I cheated because certain of my needs were not being met in the relationship. They now are, and I no longer have any desire to cheat at all. The saying “once a cheater always a cheater” is not necessarily always true.

]]> http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/#comment-2871 Joan Thu, 21 May 2009 18:42:35 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=45#comment-2871 Please tell us all how in the world do you trust that person again. The marriage/partnership will never be the same. You spout that it will be better???? once a cheater always a cheater. Please tell us all how in the world do you trust that person again. The marriage/partnership will never be the same. You spout that it will be better???? once a cheater always a cheater.

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