Comments on: Your Top Relationship Concerns? http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/ Research Blog Fri, 06 Jan 2012 19:39:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jim cannini http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-6266 jim cannini Tue, 06 Dec 2011 07:09:41 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-6266 1.I want his face to light up when he sees me like it used to. I want him to trust that he is my soul mate and that there is no one else in this world that I want to spend my life with. 2.How do you feel about open relationships? 1.I want his face to light up when he sees me like it used to.
I want him to trust that he is my soul mate and that there is no one else in this world that I want to spend my life with.

2.How do you feel about open relationships?

]]> By: Andrea http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-6137 Andrea Thu, 17 Nov 2011 20:09:30 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-6137 Stop fighting and learn to communicate. About to end 27 year relationship and need lots of help. Stop fighting and learn to communicate. About to end 27 year relationship and need lots of help.

]]> By: monte http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-6125 monte Fri, 21 Oct 2011 23:20:41 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-6125 My partner and I was together 2years and now we have been broken up for about 5month we are now working on try to get back together but we really ned to talk to some one so we can learn to work on things My partner and I was together 2years and now we have been broken up for about 5month we are now working on try to get back together but we really ned to talk to some one so we can learn to work on things

]]> By: admin http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5812 admin Thu, 22 Sep 2011 19:07:41 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5812 Stewart, thanks for posting this; you're not alone and many would benefit from the answer to your question. Everyone has different styles for requesting sexual attention. Some are more direct, others like to get into the mood through seduction. These are largely 'traits', like introversion and extroversion, and are not inherently bad or good. My thought is that the two of you need to create space for both styles to exist some of the time. The Gottman Institute (www.gottman.com) has a great product called "Salsa Cards" which make bidding for sexual attention fun again. I think you'll find that both of your styles are included in the cards, as well as about 200 other ideas for initiating sex. Give it a try! Stewart, thanks for posting this; you’re not alone and many would benefit from the answer to your question.

Everyone has different styles for requesting sexual attention. Some are more direct, others like to get into the mood through seduction. These are largely ‘traits’, like introversion and extroversion, and are not inherently bad or good. My thought is that the two of you need to create space for both styles to exist some of the time. The Gottman Institute (www.gottman.com) has a great product called “Salsa Cards” which make bidding for sexual attention fun again. I think you’ll find that both of your styles are included in the cards, as well as about 200 other ideas for initiating sex. Give it a try!

]]> By: Stewart http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5800 Stewart Mon, 19 Sep 2011 18:08:34 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5800 My partner and I have been together for 14 years. We both come from divorced hetro marriages. My problem is the lack of romance. His version of intimacy is "hey, I've got a hard on, you want to F#&K? For me that's ok some of the time, but I want to be seduced and romanced. The sex that follows is amazing, yet he tells me he doesn't know how???? Are you kidding me? after 14 years?? Please help me! My partner and I have been together for 14 years. We both come from divorced hetro marriages. My problem is the lack of romance. His version of intimacy is “hey, I’ve got a hard on, you want to F#&K? For me that’s ok some of the time, but I want to be seduced and romanced. The sex that follows is amazing, yet he tells me he doesn’t know how???? Are you kidding me? after 14 years?? Please help me!

]]> By: Tommy http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5731 Tommy Tue, 05 Jul 2011 17:47:05 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5731 My partner and I have been together for 12 years. We pretty much grew up together, having started our relationship at the age of 18. We have dealt with many issues over the years; however, the one constant issue that always splits us apart is my partner's substance abuse problem. We are wanting to try counseling to help us understand how we can improve our relationship. The big problem is that we live in Texas and are by no means wealthy so traveling to San Francisco is not an option. Does GCI offer video conferencing counseling or telephone counseling? My partner and I have been together for 12 years. We pretty much grew up together, having started our relationship at the age of 18. We have dealt with many issues over the years; however, the one constant issue that always splits us apart is my partner’s substance abuse problem. We are wanting to try counseling to help us understand how we can improve our relationship. The big problem is that we live in Texas and are by no means wealthy so traveling to San Francisco is not an option. Does GCI offer video conferencing counseling or telephone counseling?

]]> By: admin http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5722 admin Mon, 06 Jun 2011 16:34:16 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5722 Hi David, Really good question. The trick is to use your desire for him to lose weight as a way to bring the two of you closer together. Also, it needs to be phrased in a soft way, such that the weight issue is seen not as his problem, but OUR problem. I think coming across with the attitude of "I want us to both stay healthy and happy with our bodies, so I think we should both get more physically active and watch what we eat together" would be smart. If there's any defensiveness, remember to be sincere in your wish that we both conquer this together as an US-problem, not a YOU-problem. GCI Hi David,

Really good question. The trick is to use your desire for him to lose weight as a way to bring the two of you closer together. Also, it needs to be phrased in a soft way, such that the weight issue is seen not as his problem, but OUR problem. I think coming across with the attitude of “I want us to both stay healthy and happy with our bodies, so I think we should both get more physically active and watch what we eat together” would be smart. If there’s any defensiveness, remember to be sincere in your wish that we both conquer this together as an US-problem, not a YOU-problem.

GCI

]]> By: David http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5721 David Mon, 06 Jun 2011 07:33:42 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5721 HELLO! FIRST TIME USER :) ok straight to the point: Two quick questions: What are your top two relationship desires? 1. To live happily in our own serenity of peacefulness by ourselves but not completely isolated from society in an amazing landscape in canada with our happy children :) 2. For me to gain weight (high metabolism, extremely hard) and for him to lose a bit of weight without coming into an argument and no hurting him. Do you have any suggestions about topics we should cover in coming workshops or seminars? Yes, Concerning my second wish/desire try to (if you already haven't) explain the best and easiest, non-hirtful way of trying to tell your partner to lose weight without it leading to an argument, or how to avoid arguments from just small concerns that can escalate into something hugely major. Kind Regards, David (19 yo Auzzie gay male) HELLO! FIRST TIME USER :)

ok straight to the point:
Two quick questions:

What are your top two relationship desires?

1. To live happily in our own serenity of peacefulness by ourselves but not completely isolated from society in an amazing landscape in canada with our happy children :)
2. For me to gain weight (high metabolism, extremely hard) and for him to lose a bit of weight without coming into an argument and no hurting him.

Do you have any suggestions about topics we should cover in coming workshops or seminars?

Yes, Concerning my second wish/desire try to (if you already haven’t) explain the best and easiest, non-hirtful way of trying to tell your partner to lose weight without it leading to an argument, or how to avoid arguments from just small concerns that can escalate into something hugely major.

Kind Regards,
David (19 yo Auzzie gay male)

]]> By: admin http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5709 admin Tue, 12 Apr 2011 22:08:00 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5709 Hi Kimber, thanks so much for your comment. I'm glad the Gottman books are working for you both! Hi Kimber, thanks so much for your comment. I’m glad the Gottman books are working for you both!

]]> By: Kimber Simpkins http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5708 Kimber Simpkins Tue, 12 Apr 2011 05:18:17 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5708 Salvatore, I think what you're doing here is wonderful! I've read Dr. Gottman's books and even found them helpful for dealing with body image... the relationship we have with ourselves. (See post 19 on my blog, kimberyoga.blogspot.com.) And his recommendations about needing five positive interactions for every negative one has been amazingly helpful in working things out with my partner as well. We'll have been together for 16 years this month, and we're happier now than ever... we've been through some tough times! Thanks for bringing this valuable work to the gay and lesbian community. So needed and life-changing. Blessings, Kimber Simpkins Salvatore, I think what you’re doing here is wonderful! I’ve read Dr. Gottman’s books and even found them helpful for dealing with body image… the relationship we have with ourselves. (See post 19 on my blog, kimberyoga.blogspot.com.) And his recommendations about needing five positive interactions for every negative one has been amazingly helpful in working things out with my partner as well. We’ll have been together for 16 years this month, and we’re happier now than ever… we’ve been through some tough times! Thanks for bringing this valuable work to the gay and lesbian community. So needed and life-changing. Blessings, Kimber Simpkins

]]> By: Ja http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5701 Ja Tue, 29 Mar 2011 18:24:27 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5701 Hi there. Well my guy and I have been married since Sept 2010. We've actually been together since December 2000. Our sex life is dead. We've had sex once since we married. In fact on our wedding night he got drunk and ended up on the phone with a girlfriend, then crashed into bed and passed out. Last weekend I was in hospital with what looked like heart trouble (turned out to be stomach trouble) and when he was bringing me home we had a huge fight and didn't talk all week. I wondered what could have caused it and went back into our past and thought to check and see when the last time was he was chatting online. It was on the night I went into hospital. No we don't fool around - that I know of. But then again, I thought that for the first four years of our relationship. I don't think he is fooling around now; but was tempted to look (I spent time with him on the phone that night and texting too). But our sex life is dead. What can I expect? The only time we've had sex in the last year has been by my doing. We do love each other lots. Hi there. Well my guy and I have been married since Sept 2010. We’ve actually been together since December 2000. Our sex life is dead. We’ve had sex once since we married. In fact on our wedding night he got drunk and ended up on the phone with a girlfriend, then crashed into bed and passed out.
Last weekend I was in hospital with what looked like heart trouble (turned out to be stomach trouble) and when he was bringing me home we had a huge fight and didn’t talk all week. I wondered what could have caused it and went back into our past and thought to check and see when the last time was he was chatting online. It was on the night I went into hospital. No we don’t fool around – that I know of. But then again, I thought that for the first four years of our relationship. I don’t think he is fooling around now; but was tempted to look (I spent time with him on the phone that night and texting too). But our sex life is dead. What can I expect? The only time we’ve had sex in the last year has been by my doing. We do love each other lots.

]]> By: admin http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5697 admin Fri, 25 Mar 2011 14:33:29 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5697 Hi Martin, I'm sorry to see you're going through this difficult situation. I wanted to also let you know a couple articles I wrote about breaks in trust in 2009. Here's the link below. They might get you thinking about how the two of you can pull yourselves out of this situation. In order to increase the joy you describe above, it's also really important to work on your friendship at the same time you work on conflict management. Some of the other articles on the blog are all about how to keep the spark alive. http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/<a href="http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/" rel="nofollow"> <a href="http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/05/13/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-2/" rel="nofollow">http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/05/13/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-2/</a> Hi Martin, I’m sorry to see you’re going through this difficult situation. I wanted to also let you know a couple articles I wrote about breaks in trust in 2009. Here’s the link below. They might get you thinking about how the two of you can pull yourselves out of this situation. In order to increase the joy you describe above, it’s also really important to work on your friendship at the same time you work on conflict management. Some of the other articles on the blog are all about how to keep the spark alive.

http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/04/24/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-1/
http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2009/05/13/infidelity-how-to-get-over-it-part-2/

]]> By: Martin http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5696 Martin Fri, 25 Mar 2011 14:19:15 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5696 Many of these comments reflect my own desires. Most importantly, I would like to know how to begin to recover from betrayal, working our way back to the level of trust and intimacy we once shared. Another component to our relationship that I would like to see grow is our Joy. Once abundant, it seems to be slowly but surely dwindling out of our every day lives and interactions. Thanks so much! Many of these comments reflect my own desires. Most importantly, I would like to know how to begin to recover from betrayal, working our way back to the level of trust and intimacy we once shared. Another component to our relationship that I would like to see grow is our Joy. Once abundant, it seems to be slowly but surely dwindling out of our every day lives and interactions.

Thanks so much!

]]> By: graham http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5671 graham Tue, 01 Feb 2011 01:08:27 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5671 Hey ! Further to the above . We have been together for 7years this year , its never been great , we have always been in financial chaos !! Oh ! If you think he is after the money , well there is none . We live at less than poverty level . Hey ! Further to the above . We have been together for 7years this year , its never been great , we have always been in financial chaos !! Oh ! If you think he is after the money , well there is none . We live at less than poverty level .

]]> By: graham http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5670 graham Tue, 01 Feb 2011 01:01:38 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5670 There is some great , yes , great info on here .Your vid is extremely helpfull. My boyf is 37years my junior , I am 63 . So you have finished laughing ? He travelled half way around the world to be with me ,yes I paid the ticket ! He says that if I dont love him anymore ,he will go home , he hates being in England and finds the people disingenuous, I would like to disagree but I can't . We don't have sex,nor do we share affection . When he is away he misses me and gets on the internet to chat , then he is affectionate and warm and loving .I get confused and frustrated !! There is some great , yes , great info on here .Your vid is extremely helpfull. My boyf is 37years my junior , I am 63 .
So you have finished laughing ?
He travelled half way around the world to be with me ,yes I paid the ticket ! He says that if I dont love him anymore ,he will go home , he hates being in England and finds the people disingenuous, I would like to disagree but I can’t . We don’t have sex,nor do we share affection . When he is away he misses me and gets on the internet to chat , then he is affectionate and warm and loving .I get confused and frustrated !!

]]> By: Britney spears http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5629 Britney spears Sat, 23 Oct 2010 05:15:22 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5629 Um I love sex, and I'm happy with it once or twice a week. But my bf won't even sleep with me. What do I do? I'm going crazy! Um I love sex, and I’m happy with it once or twice a week. But my bf won’t even sleep with me. What do I do? I’m going crazy!

]]> By: Jerry http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5590 Jerry Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:07:33 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5590 I called thinking you folks did phone work. Anne was willing to talk with me and advise me more than multiple therapist in the past. This is a class act. All you folks in the Bay area need to know what a treasure you have!!!! I called thinking you folks did phone work. Anne was willing to talk with me and advise me more than multiple therapist in the past. This is a class act. All you folks in the Bay area need to know what a treasure you have!!!!

]]> By: jenny http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5589 jenny Fri, 27 Aug 2010 21:19:34 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5589 Have a better sexual relationship and communicate better. And try not to let your relationship change as it grows. Meaning when you first start going out to three years later hope your relationship is the same because remember you went out with that person for a reason being that they were sweet, or sensitive so why would you like them if they change? Have a better sexual relationship and communicate better. And try not to let your relationship change as it grows. Meaning when you first start going out to three years later hope your relationship is the same because remember you went out with that person for a reason being that they were sweet, or sensitive so why would you like them if they change?

]]> By: laur http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5564 laur Mon, 05 Jul 2010 21:40:23 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5564 How can we stop arguing over dumb things How can we stop arguing over dumb things

]]> By: laur http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5563 laur Mon, 05 Jul 2010 21:39:19 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5563 how do I get over the fact of my girlfriend cheating on me years ago how do I get over the fact of my girlfriend cheating on me years ago

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5511 Anonymous Wed, 05 May 2010 00:37:19 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5511 I really enjoyed your video I really enjoyed your video

]]> By: Keleka Lane http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5484 Keleka Lane Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:28:41 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5484 Salvatore, I watched the video of couples drifting apart. See here alomost 7 months ago, my partner and I had split up due to the very reasons of the video. I am and have always been in love with her and really wanted things to work out with her. I actually did this very thing on my own. I took a step back and looked at me and she looked at her to find out what happend. Where did we go wrong? What could we do to change it? After we took some serious time apart, but we still communicated with one another. We tried again. But for me I notived that I wasn't giving her the attention she needed and when I was it wasn't the right attention. It was 75% negative, and that is not what she deserved or needed from me and I knew I could giver her better than that. So we did eventually get back together and have been happy and working on keeping us on the right path ever since. The video was very insitefull and had I seen the video before, it may of helped me to see what I was doing wrong. It is a very good video and I am glad my partner had recomended this site to me. Thank you for your dedication and hard work on tring to help other couple out and help them have a healthy and long lasting relationship. I will definatly be recommending this site to my friends. Once again Thank you. Salvatore,
I watched the video of couples drifting apart. See here alomost 7 months ago, my partner and I had split up due to the very reasons of the video. I am and have always been in love with her and really wanted things to work out with her. I actually did this very thing on my own. I took a step back and looked at me and she looked at her to find out what happend. Where did we go wrong? What could we do to change it? After we took some serious time apart, but we still communicated with one another. We tried again. But for me I notived that I wasn’t giving her the attention she needed and when I was it wasn’t the right attention. It was 75% negative, and that is not what she deserved or needed from me and I knew I could giver her better than that. So we did eventually get back together and have been happy and working on keeping us on the right path ever since. The video was very insitefull and had I seen the video before, it may of helped me to see what I was doing wrong. It is a very good video and I am glad my partner had recomended this site to me. Thank you for your dedication and hard work on tring to help other couple out and help them have a healthy and long lasting relationship. I will definatly be recommending this site to my friends. Once again Thank you.

]]> By: Bruce http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-5276 Bruce Mon, 28 Dec 2009 01:45:55 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-5276 Salvatore, Thank you for the video. I am finding your institute very meaningful and intriguing. My partner and I met in San Francisco nearly 36 years ago. Our friends are amazed at how long our successful "marriage" has lasted. We are happy and will never split. I do not say our relationship is 100% perfect, but it is better than we anticipated 30 years ago. There are a few life interests and sexual situations that we try to improve, but basically, these things are not devastating. Still, I read your material with much personal interest. BL Salvatore, Thank you for the video. I am finding your institute very meaningful and intriguing. My partner and I met in San Francisco nearly 36 years ago. Our friends are amazed at how long our successful “marriage” has lasted. We are happy and will never split. I do not say our relationship is 100% perfect, but it is better than we anticipated 30 years ago. There are a few life interests and sexual situations that we try to improve, but basically, these things are not devastating. Still, I read your material with much personal interest. BL

]]> By: ew http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-4467 ew Sun, 18 Oct 2009 17:12:23 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-4467 I would like to have better communication and honesty in my relationship. I would like fewer arguments and I would like for more accountability on my partner's behalf when she is dishonest. Basically I would like to be counseled but because she is in the military, everything is hush hush and I feel a lack of support from community seeing as we are Black. Anytime, there is a problem it is because God did not want us to be gay, so it is hard to work on us when we have so little support. Thanks for having this program and videos. I would like to have better communication and honesty in my relationship. I would like fewer arguments and I would like for more accountability on my partner’s behalf when she is dishonest. Basically I would like to be counseled but because she is in the military, everything is hush hush and I feel a lack of support from community seeing as we are Black. Anytime, there is a problem it is because God did not want us to be gay, so it is hard to work on us when we have so little support. Thanks for having this program and videos.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-4144 Anonymous Sat, 26 Sep 2009 14:53:02 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-4144 how to deal with being gay in a straight workplace. how to cope with going to work related functions and not being able to take your partner along.pretending that gay topics at work don't bother you when they do.not being yourself in the work place do to people talking about gay people. how to deal with being gay in a straight workplace. how to cope with going to work related functions and not being able to take your partner along.pretending that gay topics at work don’t bother you when they do.not being yourself in the work place do to people talking about gay people.

]]> By: Gail http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-2858 Gail Sun, 17 May 2009 00:02:40 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-2858 We've been together 13 years, but she does not define herself as a lesbian and I do. Culturally and sexually, this has been an issue though I love her dearly. I am feeling denied culturally because we do not hang out with other lesbians and sexually, well....she is not willing to have oral sex though she loves it when I do her. We have similar work ethics, values, faith....there is so much going for us and yet...I have thought this past year, I only have this one life. We’ve been together 13 years, but she does not define herself as a lesbian and I do. Culturally and sexually, this has been an issue though I love her dearly. I am feeling denied culturally because we do not hang out with other lesbians and sexually, well….she is not willing to have oral sex though she loves it when I do her. We have similar work ethics, values, faith….there is so much going for us and yet…I have thought this past year, I only have this one life.

]]> By: Robbie http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-2828 Robbie Fri, 15 May 2009 01:14:30 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-2828 I like the idea of attending a couples workshop/seminar for the day on specific topics. Also, don't mind attending short seminars (3hrs) all for a nominal fee. Several workshops/seminars could be presented through out the year?? I like the idea of attending a couples workshop/seminar for the day on specific topics. Also, don’t mind attending short seminars (3hrs) all for a nominal fee. Several workshops/seminars could be presented through out the year??

]]> By: Robbie http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-2827 Robbie Fri, 15 May 2009 01:10:10 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-2827 Discuss commitment, as in Marriage. Communication and Finances. All of the above, except open relationships since we do not believe in that. Discuss commitment, as in Marriage. Communication and Finances. All of the above, except open relationships since we do not believe in that.

]]> By: JB http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-2740 JB Fri, 01 May 2009 22:36:48 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-2740 The two things I need from my relationship- 1. To learn to trust my partner again after she cheated on me. 2. To be able to be open with each other and feel like she is putting in her all. To feel like I am the only one she wants to be with. Suggestions: I'm not from the bay area, I live in san diego, but your institue has been the most helpful so far, and It would be so wonderful if you offered more phone or internet services so that my partner and I can work on things at home. The two things I need from my relationship-
1. To learn to trust my partner again after she cheated on me.
2. To be able to be open with each other and feel like she is putting in her all. To feel like I am the only one she wants to be with.

Suggestions:
I’m not from the bay area, I live in san diego, but your institue has been the most helpful so far, and It would be so wonderful if you offered more phone or internet services so that my partner and I can work on things at home.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/2008/10/31/your-top-relationship-concerns/#comment-1282 Anonymous Fri, 16 Jan 2009 02:59:50 +0000 http://www.gaycouplesinstitute.org/blog/?p=39#comment-1282 How do you repair a relationship when my boyfriend says he has checked out and no longer wants to be in a relationship. please help. How do you repair a relationship when my boyfriend says he has checked out and no longer wants to be in a relationship. please help.

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